And believe me, I'm grateful for it. I sometimes get asked how we've been together so long, as if I somehow have a secret, and the truth is, I really don't. We're very blessed and we know it; we have our ups and downs like any couple but we're both deeply committed to each other. We've been through job losses and difficult pregnancies, and kids, and traumatic crimes (and okay, maybe those aren't exactly in order of difficulty...) which have all given our relationship some low points. But we always reach for each other and I think that's why we go so well together - whatever happens, we reach for each other's hands before we do anything.
But one thing I will say - I got out of my way to do things for him, that are definitely not for me. I try to do this once a day or close, whether that's picking out a special coffee for him (I am not a coffee drinker...pass the tea, please?), buying a brand of chips as a treat for him that I can't stand, setting something up in the bathroom for him the particular way he likes it...it doesn't have to be a big thing, but something I don't benefit from (or in the case of the jalapeno chips he likes...actively dislike). Just something to let him know that he matters. Sometimes he notices, sometimes he doesn't, but it's important to me to think outside myself and remember that we're here to take care of each other.
So - one of the things I do for him...that I don't do for anything else and would probably be pretty embarrassed if I slipped and did it for the wrong person...(is anyone's head in the gutter? Boy, you're going to be disappointed...)
...is tell him Dad jokes. You know, Dad jokes? The really, really groan worthy jokes that all dads seem to tell and that make everyone at the table hide in their hands?
You're probably familiar with the aftermath of a Dad-joke.
Well, my husband has been telling them since he was like..2. Well, I exaggerate, but at least since I've known him. So occasionally, I do my best to out-dad-joke him. And today, I found an absolute beauty.
And yes, I got exactly the reaction I wanted.